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April 04, 2009


Alexander Wilhelmsen

Funny how art, philosophy, and the universe seem to be of more value some days.

A memorable line in the movie "Tuskegee Airmen" is "Friends die in our business, and for a lot of reasons. And the only protection you have against losing one is not to have any." That coming from a Lt. Glenn. That's the truth of the military and the Air Force that these guys were a part of.

In a modified way, "The only way to not lose a friend is to not have one," is true enough. Friendship can make life rich and rewarding for some, but for others, it's nothing but setting yourself up for disappointment, pain, and sadness for one reason or another. Either you're betrayed by them, they die, or they move away, and in the in-between, if you're a good one, their problems are also yours.

I would argue that "friends" or "connections" are an unfortunate necessity to improve yourself in life. I don't know if sharing life with those that can effect it is a priviledge or a risk. I'd say it's a risk, and it's not worth taking at times. It's like investing in Circuit City last Fall or Enron back in the day, or so it seems. Is it worth it? Atleast there are some people around in life worth working with. That being working with, not simply just kicking it. Maybe it's because I'd rather be productive and have fun at the same time or that friends can't just be one of those scary people who often serve as greeters that don't really know you, but feel the need to give you a hug anyways. Work and/or play is such a wonderful icebreaker, is it not?

The way that people who keep the circle close and deal with things mostly on their own could be because they genuinely have expectations of people that they themselves can meet, but others often never seem to meet. You know, the true and faithful friends that don't have them? The way so-said people make it is by the grace of God. What's worse? Being alone with one's thoughts pondering the risk of having friends (especially when you're not much close in age) or dealing with people who seem to be as genuine as Pyrite is Gold, as faithful as a mercenary just in it for the cash, and as honest as the old school tax collectors had as a reputation.

This is the dark side, as you put it. I personally would be interested in knowing some of them for the comfort of it. It is really about overcoming and eventually seeing that people aren't entirely evil... just some of them. It's where so-called friends are simply a fact of life.

It takes a lot out of you when things don't go according to the way that they should. The problem is beginning to trust again... someday. Does this person genuinely care, or do they just look nice? It's probably why when I'm talking to someone, they are the focus of my attention. If a cell phone went off, it can wait, if someone wants to cut in, but the building's not on fire, hold on, this person is important.

Someday, maybe I'll see this topic how you do... right now, I kind of don't... kind of...

Another classic line, atleast for me, is from the movie "As Good As It Gets."

"Some have great stories, pretty stories that take place at lakes with boats and friends and noodle salad. Just no one in this car. But, a lot of people, that's their story. Good times, noodle salad.

What makes it so hard is not that you had it bad, but that you're that (ticked) that so many others had it good."

- Jack Nicholson as Melvin Udall

In a way, it's kind of a case of three people who learn to trust people again, in their own way. One gets literally beaten down in life, another has a perpetually sick son, and the third is ironic, as he can write love stories all day long, but he has no true concept of love himself. In a way, I agree with this statement, and it's probably why I remember it and the movie. I kind of feel this way at times.

Friendship is like the stock market, make sure you invest in the right ones or brace for the impact of the bears.

Alexander Wilhelmsen

Oh what a friend we have in Jesus: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJnrmppqIBY&feature=related

The friend to the friendless, the afflicted, and those in need of comfort. Without him, that's where those who lack the so-called great friends are in trouble... so with that I'm not worried about those who love him and hold close to him, but to those that don't, especially for the dry times of life for those who have friends, and for those who hope that someday they find people who can care about them as much as they care about the others.

Maybe I just don't get it... comes with great expectations in life. Love you Jesus...

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